Calling for YOUR Story of Healing

Our lives are made up of stories. Millions of stories all strung together told in hundreds of ways every day. Some stories are short, some are long and detailed. Some are ordinary and quiet. Others are profound and bold. Some are stories of sorrow, others are stories of healing.  There are stories that bring us [...]

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Permission to Grieve – Part One

Here is the single biggest lesson I had to learn before I could heal many of the griefs in my life:
No one was going to give me permission to grieve.
U.S. society doesn’t promote healing very well.  It does promote experiential avoidance, the idea that times heals all wounds, and the labeling of grief and pain [...]

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100 Extreme Self-Care Ideas

Naps
Massage
Have an Adventure Day
Read (easy, fun reads though, not self-help or professional books!)
Snuggle with the cat (or dog or baby or kids)
Hugs
Long walks and/or hikes
Bubble baths
Movies (again, easy watches – not horrific documentaries or violent battles or super sad ones that remind you of your own losses)
Order dinner in (or have someone else make it)
Say [...]

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Making Decisions

We are making decisions, large and small, hundreds of times every day.  Do I get out of bed or hit snooze?  Do I wear this shirt or that shirt?  Do I have coffee or orange juice?  Do I leave my partner or stay?  Do I quit my job or stick it out?
Many of our daily [...]

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Crying for Health

“Weeping often occurs at precisely those times when we are least able to fully verbalize complex, overwhelming emotions and least able to fully articulate our feelings.” ~ Dr. Tom Lutz
I can’t count the number of times people I worked with in therapy said things like:
“Crying doesn’t help anything, what’s the use of it?”
“I refuse to [...]

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